6 Things You Need To Do Right After You Get Engaged

You just said yes! Your life is about to change forever and the next 12-18 months are going to get crazy! There is so much to do, where do you start? Well here are the 6 things you need to do right after getting engaged!

1: Let Those Closest To You Know

This is big news and a major event in your life! Be the one who tells the people you love. Don’t let them find out when you update your Facebook status. You don’t have to tell everyone you know but letting your closest family and friends who will be in your bridal party know will go along way with them.

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2: Get a Manicure

Everyone is going to be looking at that new ring on your hand for the next few weeks. Getting a manicure will ensure you are looking your best and will give you some time to relax and soak it all in!

3: Get Your Ring Sized

As a guy I can tell you I didn’t even know rings had sizes. I’m sure your love picked out a ring they thought long and hard about even if it wasn’t the right size. It’s hard to discreetly ask what your ring size is without giving away our plans. So now get it sized correctly so that you don’t lose it in the shower, washing your hands, doing some gardening, driving a car, walking around, or sleeping. Also, while you’re at it, get it insured through your insurance company. It is only a few dollars per year and will give you piece of mind.

4: Think About a Date

In my experience I’d say the average engagement is 12-18 months, so look at that time frame and pick a date that’s right for you. In the beginning you don’t have to pick THE date but come up with a season at least until you circle a date on the calendar. It will be the foundation for the wedding and knowing it is pretty much a prerequisite before booking any wedding vendor. If you are wondering How To Pick A Wedding Date around the unpredictable Indiana weather read my blog post!

5: Take Some Time To Enjoy Being Engaged

Don’t rush into wedding planning right away. Take time to reflect on what makes your relationship unique and how your perfect wedding day would go before jumping in and booking the first vendors you find. They may not be the right choice for you. Take 3 weeks to a month to fully enjoy this part of your life before putting pen to paper on the wedding plans.

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6: Get Inspired

There are so many great wedding blogs that cater to all types of weddings. Small and intimate, offbeat, diy, large and fashionable, ect, so look around and get a feel of how you two want your wedding day to feel. Save some photos for inspiration to give to vendors when interviewing them to ensure they can deliver what you are looking for.

Your engagement should be fun and a period of your life where you look back and smile, not grit your teeth and just wish the wedding was over already. I hope these few tips helped let you take a deep breath and focus on what's most important to you!

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Can Take Care of These 5 Wedding Stressers Now

When you think about your wedding day, it’s this magical event where you are surrounded by friends, family, love, and everything goes perfect. But let’s face it, it’s a long road there. Planning your wedding can be more stressful than we would like to admit. But it’s all about keeping a level head and reminding yourself that at the end of the day, as long as you say “I do” everything else is extra. And extra shouldn't be stressful. It should be fun. Do these 5 things to prepare and exactly 87.6% of your wedding stress will be immediately eliminated.

1: Exercise

I don’t know about you but I always feel like I’m too busy to go to the gym, however when I leave the gym I am more calm and can think much clearer about tough decisions. Like choosing between Wedding Cake or Wedding Pies. On top of being able to make decisions earlier you will also feel more comfortable and confident on your wedding day from sweating out the stress!

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5 Surprising Wedding Traditions We Still Follow Today

Your wedding should be a reflection of you and your fiance's personalities and unique relationship. Since there is a good chance you have never been married you may be persuaded into doing some of these wedding traditions I’ve listed below just because. I wrote this blog to help you decided what is right for your wedding and help you in planning a more intimate and personal day, not convince you to give up the wedding traditions on this list. But no one wants to do something in front of a few hundred people without knowing why you are doing them.

1: Not Seeing Each Other Before the Ceremony

Back when marriages were arranged with the point of growing your families status, workforce, or wealth you may have been partnered up with someone you were not attracted to. If that were the case you might... run. BUT if you didn't see who you were marrying until they walked down the aisle you might feel pressured to not run away. But this still didn’t work 100% So many grooms to be still ran away as their soon to be brides were walking down the aisle that we now have the wedding vial. This prevented the groom from seeing the bride until the moment before they sealed it with a kiss. It had nothing to do with bad luck. But I guessing you two have seen each other before though, so…. Many couples still chose to wait to build excitement and that is perfectly understandable! Just don’t feel pressured.

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2: Groomsmen and Bridesmaids

The thought of a wedding without the support of bridesmaids or groomsmen may seem weird, I agree. It’s fun to be around your closest friends, sorority sisters, or siblings. The tradition behind this one thought is the grossest out of all the traditions. The job of the best man was not to plan a bachelor party or run damage control and make sure your fiance does not have too much to drink and be hungover on the wedding day, the best man's job was simply to step in as groom should the original groom to be run off and he would have to marry the jilted bride to be. I know right? But what about the bridesmaids? Well they are not off the hook. It was so common that a bride may be kidnaped by an ex SO she would enlist the help of her friends to dress up just like her in the days leading up to the wedding so if there was a kidnap attempt the real bride would be safe. Do you have an ex crazy enough to attempt to kidnap you before your wedding? Gross.

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3: The Garter Toss

Along with the not seeing each other before the ceremony, this is the tradition I see getting the axe the most. This tradition started when it was customary for newly married couples to consummate the marriage immediately following the "I Do's". No need to wait until you get back to your hotel room. While the newly married couple became… better acquainted, their guest would wait… outside their window. The garter would then be thrown out the window to the guests below, signifying that their marriage was... official

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4: The First Kiss

Along with having bridesmaids and groomsmen I think this one is pretty much written in ink but I thought the story behind the first kiss was interesting so I included it. The first kiss is a tradition that comes from when the priest would kiss the groom as the ceremony started with the "Kiss of Peace" which supposedly came from above to calm him down. Is it just me or are you also sensing that grooms back in the day must have been pretty on edge. Anyway at the end of the ceremony the priest would have the groom kiss the bride to pass on the kiss from the priest. That's kinda weird. I can see why we got rid of the whole priest kisses thing though.

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5: Carrying the Bride Across the Threshold

Carrying the bride across the threshold is in like every movie where a couple gets married where for one reason or another something goes wrong and they fall or something. But the gesture is looked at as quite romantic. I actually found 2 explanations for this one. The first being, People were really scared of spirits in the old days. They believed that evil spirits lived under the floor so to protect the new bride the groom would carry her across the threshold to keep her elevated above the spirits. He would then put her down on the floor where she was totally susceptible to spirits again. And the second reason is that for a bride it was unladylike to want to leave the home and protection of her father so the groom had to kidnap her and take her to her new home. Sorry pops.

In the past few year's I have seen couples foregoing several of the “wedding traditions” on this list because they add no significance to their wedding day. Ultimately it's up to you and what you want for your wedding day.

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